Mamavation Monday: Week 10

Two weeks ago I was trying to meet a goal of going to the gym 12 times in the month of February.  To meet that goal, I went to the gym 7 out of the last 8 days of the month.  I ended up not losing any weight, but I really liked getting there that often and feeling the difference in my body from doing those workouts.  I did not like the guilt though.  Even though my husband is awesome and my kids are pretty flexible considering how much time it took from my day (and theirs, too, on some days), I feel guilty.  I have a house to clean, meals to make, kids to read to, babies to cuddle, meals to plan, laundry to wash, laundry to fold, laundry to put away, kids to put to bed, and many other things to do, too.  Instead, I either put it off or handed the duties off to my husband to get the workouts done.  He never once complained.  In fact, he encouraged me to keep going and get the workouts done.  He’s awesome by the way.  🙂

Yet, I feel guilt.  I have 3 kids.  My husband works full time plus does freelance work in the evenings.  Is it really fair for me to take that much of our family’s time to exercise?  Up until recently, I had been going to the gym twice a week in the mornings and putting the boys into their child care area.  That worked really well until Kael and Asa started to get tired of it.  So, we figured out a couple little things they could have or do in there to keep them interested and occupied.  Now, Kael is sick and Asa is just getting over his cold.  I won’t be going to the gym tomorrow morning.

So, I have a choice.  I can skip going and end up with a marathon run of workouts at the end of the month.  I can go tomorrow after Jason gets home from work.  I can go tomorrow evening when the boys are going to bed.  Or, I can go another day, but the time issues remain the same.  Unfortunately this is a very busy time in my life, and I don’t have a lot of flexibility in my schedule.

It appears that I could moan and groan about it.  Those of you reading this would probably give me some helpful suggestions and words of encouragement, and I appreciate that.  But, I think the real solution is the same as what it was to my moaning a few weeks ago.  Just suck it up and do it.  Everybody has the same 24 hours in a day.  Everyone has things that make them busy.  Everyone feels guilty about doing or not doing something.  In the end, we just have to do the best we can.  So, there it is.  I’m a bit of a whiner, but (hopefully) I’m also a doer.


I weighed myself again, and I didn’t gain or lose any weight last week.  I have decided that I’m going to take a month off from the scale.  I’m going to focus on water, fruit, vegetables, and regular exercise.  At the beginning of April, I’ll hop back on the scale and see how things are going.  Until then, I’m going to work on solidifying my lifestyle choices.


  1. FWIW I have been working out for 3 weeks now and not lost an ounce PLUS I have more than halved my sugar intake..still nada.

    As far as the exercise goes is it possible to do a DVD? I know it isn’t the same as the gym and it isn’t the same “me time” feeling you get from that but it is quick(er) and pretty great strength-wise.

    I have been doing 30 Day Shred, 6 week 6 pack, No More Trouble Zones (that one hurts my rear SO much!) and my yoga DVD. They are all 20-30 minutes of time and my kids willingly do them with me if I want/need them to. I have seen a great increase in my strength and my cardio ability.

    If that isn’t your thing and going to the gym is better for you, pop out tomorrow night after Jason gets home. It is one day, probably about an hours worth of time (guessing here). YOU need time for yourself to keep being a good mom and a good wife. In 5 years when the boys are older they and Jason aren’t going to remember that the dishes were in the sink for an extra hour or that the floor wasn’t perfectly swept. They will remember that Mama was doing what she could to stay healthy, to set an example, and to feel better about herself.

  2. You are a doer! It is hard when family members are sick. However when they are better be sure to get back to the routine you want and not use them as an excuse. With the support of your family stick to your routine. Given how busy you and your hubby are you need to schedule and stick to that schedule when you will workout. Communication is key to making sure the 3 little ones are taken care of and that the two of you meet your priorities. Best of luck for a great week.

  3. Guilt is a horrible feeling. I feel guilty when I take time from my family for a workout too. But, I also know how good I feel when I’m done and my husband is also super supportive. We have to take care of ourselves or we won’t be able to take care of anyone else.

    I hope you have a great week!

  4. Guilt is a terrible feeling. To be blunt, you feel badly taking x amount of time a day/week to workout, but think about how much EXTRA time you get with them in the years to come! Would you feel more guilty NOT going and potentially not giving your kids those extra years that getting healthy could give you? I don’t mean to bully or make you feel badly by any means, you have to do what’s best for you and your family.
    I promise, if I find something that adds hours to the day, I’ll totally share with you! 🙂

  5. It is hard, at first, because you feel guilty taking time for you. But listen to me when I tell you, that you HAVE to. Your husband, your kids, they LOVE you, and they want you healthy and at your best. In order to do that, you have to sometimes do things for yourself, by yourself, to include this.

    Have you flown before? Do you know how the attendant’s tell you to put on your own oxygen mask before your child? And how difficult it is to hear those words, because we ALWAYS put our kids first? But we HAVE to put on our oxygen mask first, because how are we to care for them if we can’t breathe, or function, or are well? Put on your oxygen mask first, sweetheart, and put yourSELF first.

    Keep up the good work, and stop feeling guilty. What you’re doing is for you, AND for them!

  6. I think taking the time away from the scale is a great idea. I did that last summer when I was plateaued and it was wonderful for my mental health. And this is about being healthy as a WHOLE person, so eat right, exercise and take care of your emotions too.

    I believe in you, Casey! You can do it!

  7. Just remember that you’re doing this so that you can spend more time with them! I hope your babies all feel better soon!

  8. what an awesome goal to go to the gym X times that month! I really like that!

    And if the scale is causing you grief, that’s a great idea to just ditch it for now! Don’t let that number define who you are because it’s only temporary!

    have a great week 🙂

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